"I just have to do it!" I hear this from clients all the time when we're talking about their health goals and what
will motivate them. If you want to work out, eat right, have a difficult conversation, take time away from work, meditate or whatever it is you need to be healthy, you have to make a change in wh
at you're currently doing. Just having to do it is good, but it's. not going to work.
Why? Because there's a reason you're not doing it. It might be your work schedule, it might be your kids, it might be that you need to wake up earlier. We all know what we need to do to be healthier, but there's a barrier in the way. Finding out what that barrier is is key to setting you up for success.
You probably know what your barrier is. Sometimes, it's just our own fears or excuses that become barriers. "I can't have that conversation because she'll be upset with me," "It's not worth talking about because nothing will change," or "I don't have time," and my favorite, "I'll do it later/tomorrow." These are barriers that we put on ourselves and are made up. Here are a few ways that you can overcome these barriers to just do it.
Prioritize what's important. It's so easy to say, "I don't have time." We're all busy and time is a luxury. Fitting in something that's healthy is hard because it can become ONE MORE THING. Ugh! But, it doesn't have to be. Take a look at what's consuming your time and see what you can remove to replace with your healthy habit. We find time for the things that are important to us. You'll be amazed at how you fill your time and what you can fit in when you prioritize it.
Put it in your calendar. You've probably heard this from me before; if it's not in my calendar, it doesn't exist. My calendar is my virtual assistant. It keeps me organized and on task. As a working mom, it keeps everything in my life in one spot and reminds me so I don't have to think about it. Along the lines of calendaring is setting a timer or a reminder. If your goal is to move more, for example, setting a timer is a great way to remind yourself to get up and move.
Partner up. We will let ourselves down over and over again, but we won't let someone else down most of the time. Have a partner that will help you. Maybe it's someone that you can talk to when you're stressed. Maybe it's someone that will go for walks with you or go to the gym with you. Or, if you're competitive, maybe it's someone you can do a challenge with. Having a partner to help you can be the accountability you need to start building those healthy habits.
Create a goal. Having a goal could help you stay focused and keep your mindset strong. Put the goal on a sticky note or on your fridge to remind you regularly. For some people, signing up for a race or another challenge can be that goal. It's something to work towards and that keeps them motivated. Share your goal with the people you work with and live with. They can help support you in these goals.
Start small. Sometimes we have these enormous expectations and goals that it's too much to digest. The key to creating healthy habits is to start small. Pick one thing you want to change and focus on that for a few weeks. Once that becomes a habit, you can focus on something else to add on. It's all about small wins and when they become a habit, they will be HUGE wins!
Work with a health coach. A health coach can help work with you on removing the barriers you put on yourself. Health coaches can work with you on your health goals whether it's nutrition focused or things off your plate, like relationships, career, spirituality and more. A health coach is your accountability partner in this journey.
Whatever your health goals are, you need to make a change in your habits to start. Saying, "I just have to do it," isn't enough. Try out some of these tactics and let me know what you think. What other things work for you when trying to create new habits?